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Love and Discipline — Father's Day

Pastor Tan Thai · Jun 15, 2019

Ephesians 6:4Proverbs 22:6Proverbs 3:12Romans 8:15-16Galatians 3:26Galatians 4:6-7John 3:16Romans 5:8Colossians 3:21Ephesians 4:26-27Hebrews 12:6-7Proverbs 14:16Proverbs 19:21Luke 15:14-171 Corinthians 3:6

This Father's Day sermon, based on Ephesians 6:4 and Proverbs 22:6, presents three principles for fathers: good intentions are not enough, children must be raised according to God's Word, and while parents teach, only God truly changes hearts. The sermon calls fathers to balance firm discipline with tender understanding, following the example of God as our heavenly Father.

The sermon opens by affirming that Christianity is unique among religions in describing the relationship between believers and God as that of father and child. Drawing from Romans 8:15-16 and Galatians 3:26; 4:6-7, the pastor reminds the congregation that all who trust in Jesus Christ are adopted as children of God and have the right to call Him 'Abba, Father.' This is a great comfort, especially for those who have lost their father or never experienced a close, loving relationship with him. The story of Michael Jackson's speech at Oxford is used to illustrate the deep pain of growing up without affirmation and love from one's father.

The first main point addresses the principle that 'good intentions are not enough.' The pastor explains Ephesians 6:4 and Colossians 3:21, noting that Paul warns fathers not to provoke their children to anger or discouragement. He analyzes how uncontrolled paternal anger plants seeds of bitterness, resentment, and hopelessness that persist into adulthood. A father must examine whether his anger stems from genuine concern for his child's moral formation or merely from wounded pride and unmet expectations, so that discipline can be effective rather than emotionally driven.

The second point emphasizes raising children according to God's Word and ways. The pastor unpacks the two words 'discipline' and 'instruction' in Ephesians 6:4, showing that a father needs both firmness and tenderness. Proverbs 22:6 is cited to stress that training must begin in early childhood and aim at shaping the child's entire life — helping them distinguish the wide and narrow roads, earthly life and eternal life. The image of a father not merely teaching theory but 'walking hand-in-hand with his child on the right path' captures the father's role as a living example. The parable of the prodigal son in Luke 15 is referenced to acknowledge that children sometimes can only learn through the consequences of their own failures.

The third point affirms that even when parents have done their utmost, only God truly transforms a child's heart. Drawing on 1 Corinthians 3:6 and Proverbs 19:21, the pastor calls parents to entrust their children to God through consistent, daily prayer — asking God to protect, bless, guide, and also discipline their children as needed. The sermon closes with the moving remarks of General Douglas MacArthur upon receiving a 'Good Father' award, in which he expressed that he was far prouder to be a father than a general, and hoped his son would remember him as a family man rather than a battlefield commander.